You fought again last night and both went to bed angry, laying on opposite sides of the bed, perched right on the edge just to make sure you wouldn’t touch each other. Now its morning your both up getting ready for the day. No I love you’s have been spoken in fact you haven’t even looked at each other.
The wife is seething “How could he treat me this way it was such a little thing. What was the fight over? It doesn’t matter I know I was in the right. He certainly isn’t treating me the way he should. Well I am not going to be the first to apologize this time. He has got to learn to treat me right.”
Across the kitchen the husband stews. “She is so wrong, she treats me like a child I am her husband not her kid. I know I am in the right it doesn’t matter that I can’t remember what started the fight I just know she is wrong. I am not going to apologize not till she admits she is wrong.
Both husband and wife go there separate ways for the day confident that they are in the right and the other is in the wrong. And hour later the husband receives a call his wife has been in an accident and she is in critical condition. All of a sudden it doesn’t matter who was right or who was wrong, what the fight was over or who apologizes first. Because now all that matters is saying “I love you, please forgive me?” The wife fading in and out of consciousness can only think of seeing him again of saying “I love you, please forgive me?”
This is an extreme case but none of us are guaranteed another breath, another hour, another day. If we all would listen and talk things out, apologize, ask forgiveness life would be so much more harmonious. Most of the things we fight over are just little things that have been blown out of proportion. Don’t go to bed angry, don’t let your spouse walk away with anger between you. It is you two and God against the world. You need each other because as Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says two are better than one. Sometimes it takes a lot more love to give in and say your sorry and try to fix things than you realize. But it is always worth it. Your marriage is worth fighting for not just for the kids but for each other and for God.
God bless till next time.
